I'm going against the paranoid side of me and posting an excerpt of my book. Enjoy.
Anyhow, back to the second year of marriage. I was feeling a little off. I thought, happily, that maybe I was pregnant. I took like 7 tests. All came out negative. I made an appointment with my endocrinologist (a doctor for...well people like me. Thyroid problems). I thought it has to either be I'm pregnant or there is something wrong with my thyroid hormone levels. I mean I was just so stinking tired.
So I go, give him all my symptoms and what does he say to me? I think maybe you are depressed and need to take medicine for it.
I looked at him and was like: Umm...ha! I think you might be the crazy one doc. I am happy. I just got married, we are happy. Sure, I work for Cruella DeVil (no, will not go into that. She doesn't deserve any part of this book. Serioulsy, she was worse than Glen Close as Cruella or Meryl Streep in that Prada movie) – but my life is great. Yeah, we were in major debt that caused my husband to work two jobs even with me working. It still was livable. (yes, I do realize I was being totally delusional)
Yup, I said all that in one look. I said nothing though. I was floored. It was the first time someone said something about that to me. How dare he right?
He suggested I go see my regular doctor to get a prescription and maybe talk to someone.
I left shell shocked. I was fine. Right?
I talked with my husband – I said everything I thought. And Dave agreed with me. “yeah, you have nothing to be depressed about.” I talked with my mom about it: “Jessica, you are fine. He is probably one of those doctors that pushes pills on every one he meets.”
I agreed with them – I mean, they did know me best right? But I still had that lingering thought in my head. What if I am depressed? That means I have no faith right?
Then – the most wonderfullest thing happened. I finally got a positive on a pregnancy test. The thoughts of depression flew out of the window.
I was pregnant! Who cares about depression? My worries were over!
We told everyone immediately. Then we found out my cousin was pregnant at the same time. It was cool beans, I thought hopefully they can grow up together friends.
There were something funky about this pregnancy though. I was...not clicking to it. No wait...bad word. Umm....I wasn't connecting. I couldn't get too happy. Not that I didn't want to; I just literally could not connect. I mean the first joy about me being pregnant? Lasted all of a day. Or two. After that? I was just....meh.
All I kept thinking about? Was I about how I was gonna have a miscarriage. I just knew I wasn't gonna carry this baby to full term. I knew something wasn't right. But I stayed silent. Cause again, who thinks like that? Who prepares for a miscarriage?
Yeah. I know. Craaaayyyy-zzzeeeeeee.
My mom ordered me my first pair of pregnancy jeans – I felt like it was a jinx. I joked that she jinxed me. You know you are not supposed to buy pregnancy stuff before your third month. Yeah. I know, most people actually believe that. I don't...did. Ummm....I don't know how to finish that, sooooooo moving on.
I put on a face. I was happy. My nails were growing long and hard. I had such a strong feeling – this was a girl. I even had her name picked out. Emma. I planned her name – but I still couldn't picture her face. I couldn't fathom that I was pregnant. Like my mind wasn't accepting the fact that I was pregnant.
Then, I started getting weird cramps. I thought nothing of it. I mean you are supposed to get growing cramps right? I started brown spotting on my underwear. Still thought nothing of it. Don't know why – but it didn't bother me.
Then, I started to bleed. My heart stopped. We went to see the doctor. He saw the embryo. Was smaller for how far along I should have been, and we couldn't see the heartbeat but he said: “Don't worry. Our sonogram machine is really old.” He remained positive. My husband remained positive. Me? I just couldn't grasp that positivity. I just felt...funky. I felt empty. I felt nothing. I even stopped bleeding as much. But still, I just couldn't get happy.
So he made me an appointment with the hospital for a normal sonogram. Then that night? I bled even more.
The next day? I bled even more. We went back to the doctor.
Now, for this next part? Its kind of hard for me to write. I had the miscarriage. So, as a form of therapy – I wrote it out in story form.